In this clip Peppermint Patty wonders out loud: “Why am I talking to you Charlie Brown? I should be talking to someone who is use to getting Valentines Day Cards.” Ouch. As Valentines Day approaches we are bombarded with images of happy couples in love, tons of flowers, chocolate, strawberries, magical love stories and so much more. So how do you have a Happy Valentine's Day if you are single?
Everyone at some point whether they believe that Valentines Day is a good holiday or not, wants to be acknowledged and loved on that day when the whole world is about candy hearts, cards and flowers. Personally Valentine's Day was never really important to me whether I was in a relationship or not. What was important to me was the feeling of being special and acknowledged.
Eight years ago I started sending myself flowers for all major holidays. I would write a card that would arrive with the flowers. In that card I would tell myself how much I loved myself, how proud I was of myself and what I thought about how I showed up in the world. I did this as part of my healing process as I was leaving a very abusive relationship and redesigning my life. I would sign the card: “Your anonymous love”. I would proudly put the flowers on the table every occasion. Friends would see the card and I never told my secret.
When the flowers would come, at first I would feel a bit silly. Yet as I opened the card and read how I loved myself, it felt good. I did this for years until I really was able to love myself fully and not need the flowers anymore. It was a lesson in self love that I so desperately needed to learn and finally did. So instead of feeling left out, unloveable or alone, do something for yourself this year that allows you to love you.
1. write yourself a love letter
2. do something fun with friends that creates heart connection
3. treat yourself to something special
4. make yourself a nice dinner and watch a funny movie
5. take a look back at how far you have come and acknowledge yourself for that
True love starts with loving yourself. If you can not love yourself, how can you fully love someone else? Don't let one day derail you from knowing that you are loveable, perfect the way you are and important. Take the time to take care of you!
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