Have you ever had one of those days where everything goes wrong and all of your fears, self doubts and anxiety has been activated? I have. In fact a few weeks a go I was having a day so challenging that I felt like I was trying to walk ten miles through thick, deep and heavy mud that was pulling me down slowly. Even with all of my tools and spiritual practices, I was struggling to shake it off. I finally gave up mid afternoon and climbed on my bed with my cats, a cup of hot tea, a box of tissue and my deck of angel cards and had myself a good cry. After I was done feeling sorry for myself, I realized I needed some support, someone to shine a light so I could see that my tunnel of despair had an end.
Yes, it was that bad. I had gone down that path and was starting to feel a bit ridiculous but still wanted some support. I looked at my iphone and my list of favorites and knew who I wanted to call. I called my sister Daniela. She is ten years younger than me, but we are very close and she is very similar to me. In fact the other day we were shopping at Macy's and the salesperson asked if we were twins! It was pretty funny.
My sister reminded me why I was doing what I was doing and acknowledged the challenges I was having. She has been such a cheerleader for me as I reach for my dreams. She never laughed, told me they were too big or teased me. She always asked how she could help and her belief in my abilities never wavered. She sees who I am at my core and reminds me of the gifts I have. So of course on that day of my anguish, she loved me up, laughed with me and acknowledged my feelings. I immediately bounced out of my doubt and felt better.
She just came to visit me for 10 days and we had so much fun. This is a silly photo of us at the lookout by the Golden Gate bridge. We had such fun adventures and laughed a lot. The things with sisters is that you really know each other in a way others don't. At times there does not need to be a conversation about something because you just know! The nice thing is that when there were buttons pushed or disagreements, we got through them really quick. There is something special about having a sister come join your life, meet your friends, see your work and be a part of your every day life. My sister told me how much she respected the work I did and my passion for being of service and that meant more to me than if someone else would have told me that.
We had such fun! I am blessed to have three sisters that I love and adore! The bond between sisters is so special and so important. There is an age difference between myself and my sisters: 10 years between Daniela and I, 16 years between Francesca, and I and 18 years between Chanel and I. The interesting thing, is now that we are all grown up, the age difference does not matter any more. I am still the big sister but will also turn to my younger sisters for support, love, laughter and adventure.
So if you have a sister or brother, take a moment to let them know you are glad that they were born. I lost a sister who was 4 years younger than me six years ago, and there is still a hole in my heart. We had been disagreeing with each other the last year of her life. It had gotten so bad that we stopped talking and if we saw each other, it was strained and we would end up arguing. I can't fix that. I have made peace with it now, but I regret that she died without me being kind.
My sisters live far from me: one in Guadalajara Mexico, one in Hollywood California and one in San Jose del Cabo Mexico. We do not let distance keep us apart. We call, Facebook, whats app, text and visit. We made a deal after our sister Nicole died to always support, love and stay in touch with each other. We agreed not to let arguments or differences pull us apart. I am so glad we did that.
If you are having a strained relationship with your sibling, look at it, is it really important in the big picture of life? If you have not connected with your sibling for a while, pick up the phone! Your sister or brother is part of who you are. Let them know you love them. I am so thankful for my amazing and lovely sisters Daniela, Francesca and Chanel! I love you.
Michelle has over 20 years experience in coaching, leadership and motivation. She is passionate about creating a community for growth, healing and support. She has been recognized for her work both locally and nationally. She inspires audiences and clients with her down to earth stories of struggle and growth. She believes that being authentic has been the key to her success.