At some point all of us go through a time of feeling lonely. You can be in a crowd of people and feel lonely. You find ways to isolate and turn down invitations because you know you will be lonely anyway and not feel like you fit in. You may go to work but are more likely to go home alone after to just be alone because it is easier or safer. Every one has done this at one point in their lives. It is when it becomes more of a habit or a way of life that it can actually become unbearable and filled with such sorrow and heartache. The desire for
connection and love yet the complete isolation takes away any hope for that. Even though you may lonely, you are not alone and it is not hopeless.
What do you do? It sounds pretty hopeless at this point. Plus lets add in fear of failure, fear of ever fitting in and maybe a sprinkle of not good enough and we have a recipe for loneliness, despair and self hatred that can just fester and boil up. It does not have to be this way. No matter if it is just a whiff of lonely, hopeless or complete isolation, there are some steps to help you find more connection. Before any of these steps will work, you need to commit to make yourself do at least one. Just thinking about doing them will not really make a difference!
Don’t get stuck. It is easy to get stuck in life routines. So if you are isolating, it is easy and may feel very safe to continue to do that. The problem is the world does not always come to you; you need to open the door and step out first. One of the reasons that you feel lonely is that you probably think about it all the time. Many people just sit there and think about how lonely they are and have nothing to do. If this is what you are doing, nothing will change. Get up and open that door to doing something new and different.
It is up to you to make the first step to opening your door to the world. You can start small and just open it a little, but you need to start if you want to let in companionship and love. Sign up for the free jumpstart session at the top of this post. It is a free conversation that can give you some tips and ideas so that you can move forward quicker.